Commitment/Love
Before I start writing my new blog, I want to give my comment on a thought of a friend.
He read my blog site, and said I must think about adding forgiveness as one of the foundation words aswell. After giving this a lot of thought I came up with this conclusion: Why forgive someone for hurting you? OK. Do not understand me wrong. I do not say keep grudges and do not forgive at all. Sure you can forgive, what I call petty crimes but there are a few actions I'll never forgive:
L - Cheating
L - Lies
L - Disloyalty
I've been in a relationship where there were lies and I was being cheated on. Ive tries to forget what had happened, but I can't. I cannot stand the idea of this person I gave all of my love, actually cheated on me and lied bout it. So, my concluesion: Forgive when you can, try and work around it. But leave when its bugging you. You cannot change the past, and the past will haunt you!
Back to my blog for today: Commitment/Love:
Searching for the phrase 'commitment/love' 56600 search results were displayed. It is not that much, taking if you search for the phrase 'porn' 39100000 results are displayed. Ok now why the big diffirence? Does this really mean people cannot commit to one another and cannot love one anoter?
Browsing answers.com and searching for commitment, the following definition stood out for me: The state of being bound emotionally or intellectually to a course of action or to another person or persons: a deep commitment to liberal policies; a profound commitment to the family.
And the same search for love? I did serch for the phrase aswell, but in 1 Cor 13 clearly states what love is. I quote verse 2, 'And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.' (charity = love)
Now that I know a bit more what commitment and love is I want to give my opinions about it.
I think a friendship with love is a relationship. They say, a friend is someone you can sit with on a bench, and when you walk away, it feels that you had the longest conversation ever. This is a definition for friends I think. But the same goes for a relationship. You just add LOVE to the equation.
If you commit to someone, you promise to love and treaure that person for ever. You do everything together. You share every tiny bit of your life. Even if its when you chip a nail!
A relationship without commitment will never work. There has to be commitment for trust to grow.
The picture ontop of this blog is one of me in Russia, Suz-Dal. I lit that candle in a cathedral for me and my ex-lover. The wish I made was to share our whole life together. To laught and cry together. Just to be with one another... For ever!
Does that wish(almost vow to stay with my ex)still exist? No, because of one think. We didn't commit nor love each other with all of our heart!
Now, about 3months after our last 'I love you' I havent shed one tear. I am not feeling guilty or pain, as the love and commitment wasn't strong enough to carry us through bad times.
Please take a minute and post your comments. Any ideas and thoughts WELCOME!
Thank you for thaking the time and reading my page
MJ
PS. I haven't read this again! Please mind any grammar or spelling mistakes!
posted by Too cute for you. at 9:23 PM
4 Comments:
HEY MJ!!! i lost your number... or what exactly happend was... that i didnt save it... and exited the webpage before i could save it! :( .... welll email me it at rouenxp@gmail.com when you can
byebye
mwah
Thanx Rouen, will mail you soon.
Lovies
Me
You talk about love as if you know anything about love and life itself. You talk about committment and that giving your love to someone is a foundation for a relationship. If religion plays an important role in your life, then why are you so desperate to find love in a mans arm? Why are you so content in being in a relationship with a man when you clearly think that being gay is blaspemious? You should decide what is important to you - being in a relationship with a man who will want to have gay sex with you or do you want to live a Christian life?
I read your blog page and all I felt was pity for you cause no one hurts you but yourself. You allow people to hurt you and only you can stop that. The Bible says that one should forgive a fellow human if he/she hurts you as forgiving those people who hurt you, will bring light into your life.
You are putting too much emphasis on relationships and love and less emphasis on living life.
MJ, I feel only pity for you but I dont resent you. I dont harbour any animosity towards you and I wish that things with your and Fred work out for the best.
You know who I am!
Thank You anonymous.
I have no idea who you are, and as I've said in my previous blog THIS IS MY OPINION, IF YOU DO NOT AGREE, THEN DO NOT COME BACK!
Ok now that it is out of the way,my religion: Firstly, my beliefs has nothing to do with you! If you feel that you can HELP by giving inspiration or contradictions from the BIBLE, I'd appreciate that.
The Bible also clearly states that you musn't judge. I did forgive, need I continue my life with him? I think not.
Good day
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